Queen of My Own Damn Life!

In the World Of Snowy (hereon known as WOS) there is one absolute:  I am Queen of My Own Damn Life.  Sound egotistical?  I think not.

It takes a LOT to become Queen of Your Own Damn Life, and it's actually a title that every woman can assume.  And that's peachy keen in your own life, but when you cross over into the WOS, respect the crown!  LOL!!

For those of you who truly know me, you know that I am the LEAST egotistical person in the world.  My BFF Kallan Kennedy has to remind me over and over again what talents I possess, what my true calling is, and what I have to offer the world.  The Honey is consistently my rock when I am feeling down.  (The Honey is that wonderful man I share my life with)

My belief is that we need to not only believe in ourselves, but we have got to learn to think very highly of ourselves.  Appreciating, loving & nurturing our Queen Selves goes a long way in our overall well being and survival.

I recently told The Honey that for the past several years I've allowed myself to be a punching bag for others with deep seated personal issues.  Trust doesn't come easy for me anymore.  The WOS has been rocked several times when out of nowhere, people I've placed trust in have just hit me so low, it was like a TKO!  I've blogged (probably on several occasions) about The Lie Monster.

The Lie Monster is that energy that is created by those who lack self esteem, harbor petty jealousies, and covet The Good and Wonderful that you possess.  They just can't get it for themselves and have NO CLUE where to start.  So - they lie! 

On another note:  I also came to the realization recently that I am very spoiled by my Black Forest Clan training.  But... that won't make sense to a lot of people.

Have you felt like a punching bag for others?  Do you think you are not worthy of A Good Life?  My advice to you is to get your head out of the sand and start being Queen of Your Own Damn Life!  Speak up for yourself, let no one take your Personal Royal Power, and polish that crown!

Be proud of yourself, even for the smallest accomplishments.  Remove that which does not fulfill you on a spiritual or emotional level from your life.  Fill your life with people who uplift you, who honor and respect you, and who just think you are the best thing since sliced bread!

Give of yourself, your time, and your energy - but do so wisely.  For, to continually give of yourself with no appreciation in return, you are breaking the Code of The Queen!  Rid yourself of Emotional Baggage (THAT is a tough one!!)  and fill your cup with The Spice of Life.

Are YOU the Queen of Your Own Damn Life?  If so, tell us about it - if not, let us know what we can do to help you!

Bad Juju vs. Good Vibrations = A Fractured Pagan Fairytale

The controversy surrounding what can be done by the pagan community about the DC 40, spearheaded by John Benefiel of the Heartland Apostolic Prayer Network (HAPN)  has taken some interesting, but not surprising, twists and turns.

Hecate Demeter shares a lot of good (and well worth reading) information on what HAPN is planning, along with End-Time Handmaidens (a name I find curious as it suggests that they see women in a subservient role... but I digress) and gives a peek into this group of conservative christian extremists view of the "District of Columbia".  

Distressing to just about every pagan out there?  Absolutely.  And yet - as is typical of pagan nature - so difficult to get a group of free thinkers to agree on what - if anything - should be done.

I watched a highly respected blogger Kallan Kennedy be admonished by a self professed "new-agey practitioner" on her Facebook page when she explained her views on using magick to defend herself against negative attacks.  Her philosophy (one that we share) is that "a witch who cannot hex cannot heal"  His response to her was "your karma, not mine".  Really?? 

On Alison Leigh Lilly's blog she admonishes pagans who are basically using a "fight fire with fire" means of fending off the negative impact something like this DC 40 imposes on us all.  A clear voice that rings out the "let's all just play nice and they will like us!" mentality.  Again.. REALLY??

Apathy, disconnect from each other as a pagan whole, and the lack of being able to put certain views aside to collectively come together for a very important cause is exactly why the extreme conservative christian right is gaining power POLITICALLY on us by leaps and bounds.  And gaining POLITICAL power means they have the gold and are getting to make the rules.  Is this what we really want??

Yeah... I said the "P" word.  Too many pagans shudder at the thought of it and run down their pagan rabbit holes, refusing to deal with it.  If pagans would start working towards more involvement - even at a local level - in the politics of this nation, then we might gain more ground and effect more change.  Don't want the government to allow the extreme christian belief system to color your rights?  GET INVOLVED!  That means, go vote, get elected, write to your Congressmen/woman and Representatives.  Make calls, contact the folks at Covenant of the Goddess and just make noise in general.


Pagans want either religious equality, or the complete separation of church and state (both noble thought processes) - but WAY too many are afeared of POLITICS.  Brother and Sister John and Jane Pagan COME OUT OF THAT RABBIT HOLE!!

 So - back to the Bad Juju/Good Vibrations concept.  Does it really have to be only one or the other?  Why can't the "love and light" side accept that there are others who will willingly pick up the magickal sword and do battle against the oppression?  For as we all know - energy is just that:  ENERGY.  It is neither good nor evil.  It's the INTENT that counts.  And if putting a stop to the negative energies of the christian extremists to protect the INTENT of our Founding Fathers means using every ounce of energy I have to deflect and PROTECT then I will.  

Good Goddess, people - didn't approximately 3,000 soldiers die on the battle field in Gettysburg alone just trying to (and SUCCEEDING) protect those freedoms?  They gave their lives - are some of you so narcissistic that you won't risk your "karma" to at least support those who are willing to do battle?  

I personally invite the "love and light" pagans to send their own INTENT along with ours, so that it melds together into one big ball of  WE DID IT!  What deflates the overall intent is the strong argument that these same pagans use to try and shame us into thinking WE are evil.   Your negativity has the potential of deflating the overall balloon of success!

 We can't overcome the "Us vs. Them" until we overcome the "My Juju is Better Than Yours" attitude.

 That's my Fractured Pagan Fairytale.  What's yours?

You can't please everyone

Thinking back on yesterday, I realized one very simple truth:

You Can't Please Everyone!

If you're wondering what "yesterday" was mostly about, you can find all the juicy details on my BFF Kallan Kennedy's blog, or another wonderful blogger - Mrs. B of Confessions of a Pagan Soccer Mom. 

In addition to watching (and a bit of interacting with) the hullaballoo, I was also treated to an admonishment based on religious intolerance of my own.  See... recently I've gotten the sewing bug.  And my creative muse took me to new and unchartered territories in the form of my new line of Poppet dolls. 

Paige Poppet, who is actually the second doll in my line, was so darn cute, and so much fun to make, that I decided to list her on my Etsy shop.  And of course, I shamelessly plugged her on Facebook. 


A few weeks ago, I happened upon a young girl's profile on Facebook.  A girl who I knew many years ago.  I thought "oh, how cool!", and sent a Friend Request, which was almost immediately accepted.  Now, this girl comes from a Mormon background.  And before any of you think I'm going to bash Mormons, you're terribly wrong.  The point being, this girl came from a home where Mormonism (which is, in fact, a Christian based faith) was preached, but not very well practiced.  They were a very prideful family, taking money out of the mouths of their employees (i.e.:  not paying them) and "borrowing" but never paying back.  They hurt countless people in their quest for the almighty dollar.  All the while thumping their Book of Mormon when it suited them.

Fast forward to yesterday:  So I put up a post about my new doll, Paige.  And immediately I began getting really favorable comments.  Until my former acquaintance - who had yet to post anything on my wall or message me in any way up to this point, showed up.  Her comment?  "That's nothing to play with... and is that a pentagram that it is standing on... SERIOUSLY???"  Yes.  Seriously.  And then she de-friended me.  Lolz.


So... although there is probably a lot more I could say, I found this video on You Tube and would like to leave you all with it.  And a little cheer:


WE ARE - STRONG!!
WE ARE - A FAITH!!
WE ARE - PAGAN!!

What the...???

OMG's Nuit'ers!  I'm SO behind in my blogging!  A month filled with ups, downs, and total busyness, I tell ya!

I'll start first with the "downs" first.  The company that brought me many great years of conventional employment is being forced to shut it's doors as of June 13th and I'm being laid off this week.  It's sad, scary, and yet liberating all at the same time.   Delivery Solutions, Inc. has been good to me.  I've grown and learned so much.  There will be many good people who will be affected by the closing of the company, and my heart goes out to them.  There are others who will need to take a few steps back and learn to be grateful for what the company provided for them for many, many years.  My feeling is that if you hang your hat on who you are in every way, not just what your "status" in life is - then you'll be alright.  Dave and I - we'll be alright! :-)  Rich or poor or just in-between - be happy for what you have.  I am! 

So what's the "ups"?  Let's see, we've been super busy getting ready for our first ever vending event at Gaia Fest!  Dave worked tirelessly on cultivating his candle making methods, and we put our heads together to bring you some of the most beautiful palm wax and soy wax candles you'll find anywhere.  I've blended some of my own scents to bring you aromas that will knock your witch hats off!

The picture to the left here is just a small representation of the beautiful palm wax candles that are part of the CandleWerx™ lineup.  They are 1.75" wide x 4" high.

Our 3.9 oz. jars of 100% soy wax also come in a variety of scents such as Coconut Lime, Mint Bliss, Fab-Breeze! (to eliminate smoke & odors), Citronella, Sugar Fairy, Dreamsicle, and much more.  The soy wax burns clean, and will scent your room whether lit, or not.

In the coming months we'll introduce NEW scents, and we're looking at having a "Candle of the Month" offering.

Not wanting to stop there, I have developed my own line of Bath & Body products.  Eye of Nuit now features BathWerx™ soaps & bath salts and BodyWerx™ lotions.  We currently offer Shea Aloe Body Butter and Goats Milk & Honey lotions. 

Pictured here is "Mint Bliss", just one of the sensory-pleasing aromas that we've developed.

A new crowd-pleaser is our Coconut Lime shea butter soap:

They come in several different Celtic knot shapes.  These soaps lather well, and rinse nicely!

All of our products are available for purchase at Eye of Nuit, our brick and mortar shop located in White Oak, PA.  

Soon you'll be able to purchase our entire line of candle, bath, & body products online.  Look for an announcement soon!

In the "other" news department:  my BFF Kallan Kennedy is doing an AMAZING giveaway featuring a $25 gift certificate to our online store Pagan Stuff Cheap!  She's brilliant!  I got to visit with Kallan and her clan earlier this month.  Such a treat to see my BFF after many years!  She made homemade lasagna, her signature artisan bread and LEMON COOKIES and LEMON CAKE!  Lyssa, her beautiful daughter who I just adore, made the tastiest salad with all kinds of fresh greens & goodies.  I left there FULL, content and happy!

And now, Nuiters, I must get back to work!  Have a Magickal day!